As a sex therapist, I often receive questions from clients about introducing sex toys into their relationships. Sex toys can be a fun and exciting way to enhance sexual pleasure and intimacy, but it's important to approach the topic with care and sensitivity. In this post, I'll provide some guidance and tips for introducing sex toys into your relationship.
Start with a conversation Before introducing sex toys, it's important to have an open and honest conversation with your partner. Ask if they are open to the idea of incorporating sex toys into your sexual experiences, and listen to their concerns or questions. Be prepared to discuss your own desires and boundaries as well.
Choose the right toy There are many different types of sex toys on the market, so it's important to choose one that feels comfortable and suits your needs. If you're not sure what you like, consider starting with a simple vibrator or a small dildo. If you're looking for something to use during partnered sex, a cock ring or a vibrator that can be worn during penetration may be a good option.
Take it slow  Introducing sex toys into a relationship can be a new and potentially overwhelming experience. Take it slow and be patient with yourselves. Start with a lower intensity setting or a smaller toy, and gradually increase the speed or intensity as you become more comfortable. Pay attention to how your partner responds to the different sensations.
Communication is key  As with any sexual activity, communication is key when using sex toys. Check in with your partner frequently to make sure they are comfortable and enjoying themselves. Encourage them to give you feedback, both positive and negative, so that you can adjust your approach as needed.
Respect boundaries  It's important to respect each other's boundaries when introducing sex toys into a relationship. If your partner is not comfortable with a particular toy or activity, don't pressure them or push them beyond their comfort level. Remember, the goal is to enhance your sexual pleasure and intimacy, not to make anyone feel uncomfortable or coerced.
Have fun  Above all, introducing sex toys into a relationship should be a fun and pleasurable experience. Don't take it too seriously and be open to experimenting and exploring new sensations. Embrace the opportunity to deepen your connection and enhance your sexual pleasure together.
Introducing sex toys into a relationship can be a fun and exciting way to enhance sexual pleasure and intimacy. Remember to start with a conversation, choose the right toy, take it slow, communicate frequently, respect boundaries, and most importantly, have fun. As a sex therapist, I encourage all couples to explore their sexual desires and to communicate openly and honestly with each other about their needs and boundaries.
Lara Maree
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